When the bucket list is completed and the visits have taken place, it’s time to lay oneself down and move gracefully from this earthly existence to the spirit world. But what if you just don’t want to go?
Such a situation has become real for myself over the last 4 weeks. Not, I might add, that it’s my bucket list or visits to which I refer. No, the person due to depart is close to me and clearly has decided to delay departure for as long as humanly possible.
I wrote about my friend sometime ago and referred to his dire situation in battling Aplastic Anemia, which at the time was some 7 years in duration. Now, two years on, he is about to die.
This has been a story of great courage and enormous challenge. To see what the human body can withstand is both amazing and bewildering. Amazing because my friend should really have never lasted this long, but continued to astound the doctors and ourselves, with his determination and strength of character. Bewildering because this disease renders the body susceptible to infection constantly and yet could not bring my friend down no matter what.
And so it has come to this. After many false starts, and indeed finishes, the time has come to say farewell.
In this, the forthcoming death of my friend, there is great strength to be gained reflecting upon how the initiative was seized and the power of controlling one’s will was never surrendered. Even under enormous pain and pressure through advice and love, my friend still pressed on and took responsibility for his outcome.
When we reach time for “The Big Dance”, should we have just some of the inner strength shown by my friend, then we will also die happy and complete.